Releasing Control

Releasing Control

It's easy to convince ourselves that we are in control of everything in our lives.
We eventually learn that we are in control of only two things: Our own thoughts and actions.
We can fool ourselves into thinking that we can control our spouses, children, friends, employers, etc.
But do we?
We can plot, manipulate, e.t.c. to get our own way, but ultimately the other person makes their own decision. We didn't force anything to happen. We may have encouraged it, but we didn't cause it. Our attempts to control the people and situations in our lives don't usually come from pettiness or greed. Most often, it is pure fear that drives us. If we can't control what our loved ones do, they might hurt us, reject us, betray us or abandon us.
Handing our heart to someone on a silver platter is a tremendous act of faith and love. If by chance that heart gets tipped onto the ground and trampled, it's a feeling we don't forget easily. Once we've been betrayed, it is very difficult to trust again. We don't want to experience that sharp pain again, so we try to control the situation and prevent it from happening again.
But we cannot control the actions of another, no matter how desperately we might want to. It's important to differentiate between control and power. Just because we are not in control of our loved ones, does not mean we are powerless in our relationships. When something happens that is out of our control, we are then faced with a decision.
How do we react to this situation? What do we want to do about it? While we couldn't control the actions of the other person, we can control our own actions and responses. That's the problem, we're trying to control the wrong things.

'Life' grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

When struggling with the circumstances of our life, introspection might help us decide if we're trying to change things that are out of our control. If we can shift our focus and concentrate on the things we are in control of, it can have a domino effect in the other areas of our life. Release our fear of powerlessness. We are not powerless. We actually have much more power than we realize. Power over our own fears and emotions - which by the way, are usually what get us into the most trouble. Knowing that we are never truly a victim in our life can be tremendously freeing.

Remember that we always have a choice. Releasing the illusion of control can be frightening, but that is an illusion. We were never in control of these things to begin with. We just convinced ourselves that we were.

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Nicos Pavlides
Ayurvedic Consultant
AyurvedaHarmonia

MASSAGE!

MASSAGE!

ASK A FRIEND TO GIVE YOU A NICE MASSAGE.
THEN, PERHAPS ON ANOTHER OCCASION, RECIPROCATE.
IT IS NOT THE TECHNIQUE THAT MATTERS MOSTLY BUT THE ENERGY TRANSFER. SO WATCH YOUR THOUGHTS, FEELINGS, INTENTIONS AS YOU GIVE OR RECEIVE.

ENJOY, RELAX, BE!

WOULD YOU LIKE TO FALL IN LOVE?

Releasing the Illusion of Control

It's easy to convince ourselves that we're in control of everything in our lives.
What we eventually learn is that we are in control of only two things: Our own thoughts and actions. We can fool ourselves into thinking that we can control our spouses, children, friends, employers, etc.

But do we?
We can plot, manipulate, e.t.c. in order to get our own way, but ultimately the other person makes their own decision. We didn't force anything to happen. We may have encouraged it, but we didn't cause it. For most of us, our attempts to control the people and situations in our lives don't come from pettiness or greed. Most often, it is pure fear that drives us. If we can't control what our loved ones do, they might hurt us, reject us, betray us or abandon us.
Handing our heart to someone on a silver platter is a tremendous act of faith and love. If by chance that heart gets tipped onto the ground and trampled, it's a feeling we don't forget easily. Once we've been betrayed, it is very difficult to trust again. We don't want to experience that sharp pain again, so we try to control the situation and prevent it from happening again.
But we cannot control the actions of another, no matter how desperately we might want to. It's important to differentiate between control and power. Just because we are not in control of our loved ones, does not mean we are powerless in our relationships. When something happens that is out of our control, we are then faced with a decision.
How do we react to this situation? What do we want to do about it? While we couldn't control the actions of the other person, we can control our own actions and responses. That's the problem, we're trying to control the wrong things.
'Life' grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
When we find ourselves struggling with the circumstances of our life, introspection might help us decide if we're trying to change things that are out of our control. If we can shift our focus and concentrate on the things we are in control of, it can have a domino effect in the other areas of our life. Release our fear of powerlessness. We are not powerless. We actually have much more power than we realize. Power over our own fears and emotions - which by the way, are usually what get us into the most trouble. Knowing that we are never truly a victim in our life can be tremendously freeing.

Remember that we always have a choice. Releasing the illusion of control can be frightening, but that it's an illusion. We were never in control of these things to begin with. We just convinced ourselves that we are.

Nicos Pavlides
Ayurvedic Consultant
AyurvedaHarmonia

ON TOTAL HEALTH

ON TOTAL HEALTH

The body naturally heals itself once it is connected to its own inner intelligence.
How?
Disease is the result of a loss in functioning in accordance with one’s DNA and ultimately in the unified field, at the base of our existence. Disease develops because the body gradually forgets how to function, a loss of memory of ones own inner intelligence.

Health is an indication that you have a strong and lively connection to your body’s inner intelligence. If you already suffer from disease, there is some loss of connection to your natural healing mechanisms.

To prevent disease from occurring in the first place, imbalances need to be recognized before the clinical symptoms of a disease arise. For both prevention as well as reversal the strategy is to restore and strengthen the body’s own healing abilities. This principle needs to be used to address any disease or disorder.

From my forthcoming book "Total Health & Wellbeing"
Nicos Pavlides
Ayurvedic Consultant
AyurvedaHarmonia

CHANGE THE AIR

WHAT IS HAPPINESS?

What is happiness?
M: Harmony between the inner and the outer is happiness. On the other hand, self-identification with the outer is suffering.
Q. How does self-identification happen?
M: The self by its nature knows itself only. From lack of experience whatever it perceives it takes to be itself.
Q: What is the real cause of suffering?
M: Self-identification with the limited. Sensations as such, however strong, do not cause suffering. It is the mind bewildered by wrong ideas, addicted to thinking: 'I am this' 'I am that', that fears loss and craves gain and suffers when frustrated.

"I AM THAT"

Dialogues with SNM

TRUE WORDS ALWAYS COME TRUE

Things happen as they happen, who can tell why and how?
Just remain determined!
Find yourself, in desiring and knowing less and less, until you can say, in utter astonishment: 'I know nothing, I want nothing.'
You are used to creating a world and populating it - don't do it any more.
All Knowledge is Ignorance.

True words always come true.