IN LOVE!
Your so-called love is a bargain. You want to use the other person and the other wants to use you, so there is a mutual bargain -- a contract. Neither you love him, nor he loves you. He loves himself, you love yourself. You use the other, he uses you. This is a kind of settlement, adjustment. You call it love. These adjustments don't go very far, they cannot go very far. Sooner or later you are fed-up with the person, and he or she is fed-up with you. You have looked into each other, you have explored each other, and now there seems to be nothing new any more. So interest has waned, love starts disappearing. Then you tolerate at the most, because of past promises, because of past commitments. You have to carry it somehow. That's what happens to all kinds of so-called marriages. It is not love, it was not love ever, it was a kind of deception. And the deception is created by chemical changes in your body. It is as chemical as taking a drug. Certain hormones, certain chemicals, are released in the bloodstream and you feel an illusion arising and you start seeing things which are not there. When you fall in love with you start seeing things which are not there. Nobody else is seeing them, only you. And the other person starts seeing things in you; your chemistries are helping each other. You are dreaming -- dreaming with open eyes; it is a kind of daydream. Soon it will be shattered, soon the reality will assert.
Only after we have found ourself love is no more a need. We can be happy alone. Our happiness is as perfect alone as when we are together with somebody else. Our happiness no more depends on anybody else. Now we can share, now we can give.
Your so-called love is a bargain. You want to use the other person and the other wants to use you, so there is a mutual bargain -- a contract. Neither you love him, nor he loves you. He loves himself, you love yourself. You use the other, he uses you. This is a kind of settlement, adjustment. You call it love. These adjustments don't go very far, they cannot go very far. Sooner or later you are fed-up with the person, and he or she is fed-up with you. You have looked into each other, you have explored each other, and now there seems to be nothing new any more. So interest has waned, love starts disappearing. Then you tolerate at the most, because of past promises, because of past commitments. You have to carry it somehow. That's what happens to all kinds of so-called marriages. It is not love, it was not love ever, it was a kind of deception. And the deception is created by chemical changes in your body. It is as chemical as taking a drug. Certain hormones, certain chemicals, are released in the bloodstream and you feel an illusion arising and you start seeing things which are not there. When you fall in love with you start seeing things which are not there. Nobody else is seeing them, only you. And the other person starts seeing things in you; your chemistries are helping each other. You are dreaming -- dreaming with open eyes; it is a kind of daydream. Soon it will be shattered, soon the reality will assert.
Only after we have found ourself love is no more a need. We can be happy alone. Our happiness is as perfect alone as when we are together with somebody else. Our happiness no more depends on anybody else. Now we can share, now we can give.
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